This week marked 23 years of marriage to my high school sweetheart.
In the past year, we’ve commented many times about life not being what we expected. This week we reflected on more ways life has not been what we expected. We concluded that in many ways we didn’t even know what we expected and in other ways what we expected was not to be.
Some unexpected things brought joy.
- Having a baby in our 40’s when we had three teens
- Meeting strangers who become family in the grocery store
- People faithfully giving and supporting us
- Immediate deep connections with new friends
- Opportunities to serve as a family
We concluded we did expect:
- to do it together – whatever life brought our way. Here we are 23 years down the road more connected and committed than ever.
- to love our kids and have lasting relationships with them.
- to raise responsible adults. While we have not arrived it would appear we’re on the right track.
- God to be faithful and He has.
Unmet expectations can derail us.
They open opportunity to accuse God or people. They also open opportunity for grief and growth.
- Losing a son
- Getting carbon monoxide poisoning
- A failed business through no fault of our own
- Strained relationships
- Projects taking years longer than planned
Unmet expectations are really a fork in the road, a decision point.
Will we stay disappointed, hurt, or grow bitter? Or will we run to Father God with our hurts, confusion, and questions?
Growing bitter imprisons us.
Running to God opens the door for healing, grace, and new perspective.