Regret isn’t something I’ve given too much thought until recently. I read a word from Lana Vawser that said God was taking bags of regret off of mothers. The bags of regret or lightened as the lies were revealed and made holes in the bags.
I realized I have many regrets as a mother. And events this week have made them come very much to the forefront.
I started taking my regrets one at a time and identifying the lies that went with them.
I regret not doing things differently in my home school.
- I’m a bad mom
- I’m a bad teacher
- I failed my kids
- I could have made everything so much easier
- I could have done so much better, so much more
I regret allowing fear and insecurity to direct my choices
- I’m a failure
- I should have done things differently
- I’m a bad example
After I had identified the lies I asked the Lord the truth.
- I’m a good mom
- I’ve done well by my kids
- God is working everything for my good and my children’s good, He wastes nothing – least of all our pain
- I was doing the best I could with what I had
- I’m an example of growth and perseverance
“I’m doing the best I could with what I had” triggers accusations.
- You should have grown faster
- You should have changed more
- Surely there’s something you could have done to have been a better mom than you were
Notice these are all second person. These are not my thoughts. These are accusations of the enemy. There is no condemnation for me because I am in Christ Jesus. Satan is my accuser and I don’t have to listen to him.
Again I ask Holy Spirit for the truth.
He said I had done well and reassured me He is working everything for my good and for my children’s good. He is strong in my weakness.
Where do you have regret?
What lies do you related to that regret?
What accusations is the enemy making against you?
What does God have to say about it?
I would love to know your thoughts on regret as I continue to process this.