Love and Trust are Not the Same

No email again today.
I guess it’s a blessing – a confirmation that I correctly assessed the situation.
We speak the same words with such different meanings.
It hurts too. Not to be important enough for the hard work of change. That they don’t value themselves enough to pursue healing. It grieves me. It makes sense. If they don’t value themselves how can they value me?
So what do I do now? Jesus has bore my sorrows so I give it to him.
Jesus this hurts. It feels like rejection and manipulation. I think it even feels like betrayal. I’ve trusted someone willing to break my trust for their comfort and say it’s my fault. I don’t want to be foolish enough to set myself up for that again. I also want my heart open to love everyone as You do. Guard my heart without hardening it.”

He responds:

Love and trust are not the same.
Love is unconditional and unearned – a completely free gift.
Trust is earned and must be rebuilt when it’s broken.

I wonder:

Is love holding the tools to rebuild? Keeping the door open to trust again when effort is made?
Trust has boundaries. The tools must be used properly. The effort has to be made.
I can love if the tools are never touched or even thrown away – if an effort is never made.
The relationship could look very different if there were trust.

What about you?

What do you believe about love and trust?
How do you go on loving someone it’s not wise to trust

Reflect God’s Love: Story TIme

Story Time: Reflect God's Love. The Story About Ping
Story Time: Reflect God’s Love. The Story About Ping


  • Ping by Marjorie Flack and Kurt Wiese
  • paper (here’s one you can print)
  • paint or oil pastels or crayons and an iron*



Read and discuss the story. Enjoy. Stop to ask and answer questions. There are many great lessons to explore. In Story Time I touched on discipline being better than other options. I figure most children hear enough about that. I focused on the reflections in the water showing how we can reflect the love of God to others.


Discussion ideas:

  • Why are there rules?
  • Why do we get disciplined?
  • Would it be better for Ping to have taken the swat than hide?
  • How important is family?
  • How do you reflect God’s love? How can people see God’s love in you?
  • Share how you see God’s love reflected in each other.



  • Fold your paper in half. (Our group, using the picture I drew, did the process twice. First for the boat, then for the duck and water.)
  • Draw and color or paint a duck like Ping on the fold of your paper.
  • Add some water around Ping.
  • Fold the paper the other way and press the color from one side to the other. *If you color with crayon iron lightly to transfer wax from one half to the other.


Keep the Water in the Glass

Jesus replied, “‘You must love the LORD your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’

Matthew 22:37 NLT

But first be concerned about God’s kingdom and his righteousness, and all of these things will be provided for you as well.
Matthew 6:33



  • glass of water, one you can see through the side

Set up:

  • Put some water in a glass.


  • Why does the water stay in the glass? (Your children can offer their thoughts)
  • What happens if we tip the glass too far? The water will run out. Why? (Listen to their ideas).
  • Does the water run out because someone doesn’t like us? (No)
  • Does it stay in the glass because we are good? (No) The water stays in the glass, stays level in the glass and runs out of the glass all for the same reason. The reason is gravity, a natural law God put in place.


Gravity always works exactly as God designed it to work. It works with all the other natural laws just as they are designed to work.
God put spiritual laws in place that always work just as He designed them to. Each one always works with the other spiritual laws just like God planned.

God loves us and set up rules so we would know how to have His spiritual laws bless us. If we want the water to stay in the cup we have to work with gravity and keep the cup upright. If we want close relationship with God we work with His spiritual laws. The most important one is to love Him most. When we love Him most He promises to take care of everything else.